How Can You Get Kids To Clean Their Room When You Have Tried Everything Under The Sun And It Still Doesn't Work?

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shannon machelett Profile
Making it a before bedtime routine works for me.  If I do this every night then it doesn't get to overwhelming for them.  I would clean the rooms for them once to get them in order and there after make it a daily regimen.  Good luck with this, it takes just as much effort on your part as it does theirs.
Jacquelyn Mathis Profile
We have the same problem with our daughter, she is very hard to get to work with about it. But, I should have made it a daily 'to do' thing on her list from the very beginning. I think that is how you really get them into the habit of doing it when you tell them. I just tell her that we are going to bring in a dump truck in and clean it our way. Lol She gets it then. Best thing really though at this point is to clean it yourself, and take the toys away, when you think they get the point of what you are telling them, then they can have some toys back, if they slide at all, take the toys back again. I hope this helps, and best of luck to you.
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DEBORAH SCHMOLKE
DEBORAH SCHMOLKE commented
Already tried till the point of throwing everything into the trash, and removing their dresser because their clothes are all over the floor. Arrghhhhhh.
Jacquelyn Mathis
Jacquelyn Mathis commented
O.k. Another thing I did with them was to make them bring out a tub of their stuff, put the garbage can next to them and would tell them to put all the toys in one pile, put all the papers in the garbage can, clothing went in another pile. Then they had to get rid of broken toys, and I went through the clothing, because they would have wanted to keep all the rags. They had to put the toys down to a minimum, then I would vacuum, and they had to pick up anything else.
Jacquelyn Mathis
Jacquelyn Mathis commented
I forgot to add that you have to be there monitoring them strictly. Or they won't do a thing. Hope you might try this one.
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Anonymous answered
It was hard for my kids at first too. The only thing we found to work was every morning after breakfast they did their room. They were not allowed to do anything else until it was done. They will soon learn they can be in their rooms for 5 minutes cleaning good or 4 hours messing around and crying that they can't do it. My kids are 6 and 10 now and they make their own beds and clean their rooms every morning as they are getting dressed for the day without even being reminded. Of course you have to be a good example and do yours too.
nettie Profile
nettie answered
Help them every once in awhile like once a month that way you can train them how to do a decent job at it,but yeah they never learn until they are grown and get their own place and than most of the time you will see the fruits of your labor,but it is difficult and don't think you are alone in this we could start a committee regarding getting kids to clean their room,not knowing how lucky they are to have a room,but when they are grown and have their own just watch you will hear the complaints,but nothing seems to really work,try the cleanest room gets to have a pj party......good luck mommy dear we all have them
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Kathleen Bayler answered
I find bribery works for my children. They love chocolates and lollies!
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Anonymous commented
They need to realize who is the boss. I use the "trashing it all if i clean it", or take things away from them that they really like (grounding). Or offer a reward after completion if you must. Age has a lot to do with what you can do to them.
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Kerryn Haeusler answered

Okay, my advice, let it go. Stop butting heads about it, hang a curtain over the door so u don't have to look at it. Declare that room no longer part of your house. It is their room, let them choose how it looks and smells. No clean clothes cos they are all on the  floor and not in the he washing hamper? Not your issue. Can't find something important in there? Not your problem. Sheets stiff with grime? Not your problem. Netball uniform crushed on floor for two weeks is now needed for tomorrow morning? Show them how the washing machine works. If the child cannot manage a linen change because they are too young, help with this, but only if they strip the bed down and put the sheets out for washing first - and at a time negotiated as convenient for you. Don't comment on the mess, just do.the job and get out.

Key points to the success of this method, completely dissociate your expectations for their room. Respect their space, respect their choices and crucially, allow them to experience the consequences of those choices. Do NOT save them when things go wrong. Have systems set up for placement of soiled laundry, handing on of school notices etc. It is their choice as to whether they use them or not. Getting a child to take responsibility for their own stuff as early as possible will build organisation, planning and time management skills. Get going with the tough love, take the daily hassle of 'the room' off your 'give a damn list' (it is so freeing)  and see how that goes.

BTW, sometimes those consequences can be pretty devastating - like missing a school excursion or similar. Use careful judgement when allowing consequences to flow on, deepening on the age, capacity and general functioning of your child. Is she a bit of a space cadet and it is a genuine oversight? Or does she know you will save her so she just doesn't give a hoot? If it's answer B, then she may have to feel some heavy duty deprivation before,she takes you seriously, especially if you have facilitated everything for her in the past.

Here's to tuff luv! ✊

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Anonymous answered
I trash it when I clean it. If they don't pick stuff up, I'll "bin" it - I'll hide it away, and if they've kept their room tidy for a week, I'll give them the thing back :P
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Anonymous answered
I once refused to clean up so my Dad swiped 5 times my bare bottom with sandpaper-i NEVER refused again!

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